Friday, April 6, 2007

Dear Girls Who Will One Day Meet My Boys,


Hi, you don't know me yet, but I'm raising that boy you're toying with. The one you're yanking around by your invisible chain, leading him to nothing and for no other reason than you're bored and consider boys your hobby. I'm asking you as nicely as possible to stop. See, they don't normally expect girls to behave this way so they aren't really sure what you're up to. But I know. I can see it in your eyes and I'm guessing that's why you can't look directly at me.


Because I'm on to you.

Yes, yes, that's a lovely smile. I'm sure it distracts everyone else. But I'm not watching you smile anymore. I'm watching your body language, how you display yourself to everyone in the room like the Alpha female. And good heavens! Honey! This isn't the Spring season of Animal Planet....kindly stop eye-humping my son and if it's at all possible please don't start marking the furniture. We still have to live here when you're gone. Now, close your legs and I don't know...maybe spit out the gum or at least use a little less saliva in the chewing process.

Does your mother know you wore that out of the house? For that matter, did you have a mirror when you did your makeup? Or lighting of any sort? The colors are so.....um..............vivid. I have half a mind to snap a quick shot on my camera phone and save it for the next time I see your parents. I could've sworn you looked a lot nicer at the school play the first time we all met.

I know you brag about being on the pill. How do I know? Well, you manage to make it a part of nearly every conversation you have whether you're in line at the movies or looking for a nose ring at Hot Topic. People talk and you are not an island unto yourself. So really....everyone knows. And that means everyone also knows that you often seem to "forget" to take them. You seem to enjoy the mini dramas brought about by your "forgetful" scares. You laugh about it. People see you. They've heard your friends say "not again!?" and know that you do this often and think it's a game. How does this game end for you though? With my son? Will you bring my son into this game because I'd rather you didn't. We'd all rather you didn't. He trusts your word because he likes you. He trusts you because he's attracted to you and everytime someone uses and abuses that he loses more and more of it. Be responsible either way so that he can do the same. Give him the chance to make better choices instead of playing games that are only fun to you.

Also, you are dating each other. He chose you and you chose him...it was mutual. You're not married nor are you necessarily meant to be together forever. The only thing I ask while you're together is that you respect each other and that starts with being honest. So are you going to tell him about your other boyfriend or will I?

Sincerely,

His Mom

(letter written based on years of experience at both being a female and having female friends...so while I know not every girl is like this, I know some are and this is for them).

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